Marriage is friend or foe?

In the mist of 27 years old and above male and female, marriage is a thing that male and female dreams for. Thinking about the grand wedding ceremony, thousands pairs of eyes concentrate on you and your wife or husband, standing in front of the pastor, keeping promises among them, saying the most powerful words,'I do'! Marriage should be the sweetest thing in our life. However, there is nothing always remain constant. Nowadays, wedding ceremony should be the sweetest day in the life, not marriage.

On the wedding ceremony,the bride and the broom looks very sweet and living happily ever after. The truth is, NO WAY! After the wedding ceremony, the 'war' started. Two different people living in the same place, anything will just causing 'friction' among them.

How is the life in marriage? Most that I observe, that is only 10% of marriage is success. 90% of them had entered into the 'war'. Quarrelling among them is getting more serious. Why should they quarrel for their different perspective? Can't they just tolerate among themselves?

The ending in this 90% marriage is only two possibilities. First, divorce! From now on, there is a border line among them. Ex-husband finds new bride, ex-wife finds new broom. Is it a normal phenomenon for male and female in marriage since they were not loving each other? The second ending, they will just be together forever, but they are more like neighbours. Sometimes they will greet each other, saying the humorous things, share their joy for the few minutes. Later, they will just go back to their normal work. That's what we called "neighbours that live under the same roof".

In this case, marriage is friend or foe? Aren't marriage is giving us a happily ever after life? Or happily ever after only exist in fairy tales that forever won't come true in the real world? As conclusion, I am still wondering, is it so difficult to maintain a relationship in marriage? Should everyone get married?