Marriage is friend or foe?

In the mist of 27 years old and above male and female, marriage is a thing that male and female dreams for. Thinking about the grand wedding ceremony, thousands pairs of eyes concentrate on you and your wife or husband, standing in front of the pastor, keeping promises among them, saying the most powerful words,'I do'! Marriage should be the sweetest thing in our life. However, there is nothing always remain constant. Nowadays, wedding ceremony should be the sweetest day in the life, not marriage.

On the wedding ceremony,the bride and the broom looks very sweet and living happily ever after. The truth is, NO WAY! After the wedding ceremony, the 'war' started. Two different people living in the same place, anything will just causing 'friction' among them.

How is the life in marriage? Most that I observe, that is only 10% of marriage is success. 90% of them had entered into the 'war'. Quarrelling among them is getting more serious. Why should they quarrel for their different perspective? Can't they just tolerate among themselves?

The ending in this 90% marriage is only two possibilities. First, divorce! From now on, there is a border line among them. Ex-husband finds new bride, ex-wife finds new broom. Is it a normal phenomenon for male and female in marriage since they were not loving each other? The second ending, they will just be together forever, but they are more like neighbours. Sometimes they will greet each other, saying the humorous things, share their joy for the few minutes. Later, they will just go back to their normal work. That's what we called "neighbours that live under the same roof".

In this case, marriage is friend or foe? Aren't marriage is giving us a happily ever after life? Or happily ever after only exist in fairy tales that forever won't come true in the real world? As conclusion, I am still wondering, is it so difficult to maintain a relationship in marriage? Should everyone get married?

Secret relationship

'Relationship' is a very sensitive word in the mist of teenagers. Once you get closer to a girl or boy, the word 'relationship' appears in your mind. However, don't you think teenagers like to show off their boyfriend or girlfriend,but there is much much teenagers like to have secret relationship.

What is secret relationship? Secret relationship is having a relationship that nobody knows except you and your 'lover'. Why teenagers like to have secret relationship? Aren't they like to 'show off' their girlfriend or boyfriend?

Here, I did some survey on 5 persons. 4 15 years teenagers and 1 40+ adult. Some of them told me having secret relationship is more romantic,cooler. Some said for fun and another one said that teenagers are not serious in relationship, so to avoid embarrassing situation. The adult that I asked answered me having secret relationship is teenagers' privacy. Just like the files in governments department.

Are they say out a correct opinion? Are teenagers really not having serious attitude in the relationship? What do they expect in a relationship?Is that relationship is a kind of fashion or style?

In while, teenagers having secret relationship is a good actor or actress in life. To prevent their 'secret relationship' to be exposed, they will try anything to prevent this thing happen. One of the most famous trick is to lie to his friends,family and everyone he knew. Why must they did all these things? Is everyone we know having secret relationship? Should relationship be treated in such nasty way?

Should teenagers having relationship in adolescence stage? Having secret relationship might be cool, but what's the precious value in the relationship? Is it just a game that had been created in 21st century in the mist of teenagers? I believe in the corner of the world, there must be teenagers having a open relationship that ready to keep the promises in a relationship.

Am I the left out one?

The world is cruel! 'Slow' is not a acceptable word in 21st century. Everyone is getting faster and faster even more faster. Once you slow down, you are disqualified. Same thing happen to Penang Island, everyone is working, studying all day long. Resting is unnecessary! Is there anyone we left out in our mist?

In this social circle, we were all categorise. Maybe you are the sexy group, complaining group, ugly group etc. But, is there anyone we left out? Is there anyone we haven't categorise them? Let's get some example in the true life!

As I said, I am always the one who left behind. Fashion ate, famous artist, songs and so on. In the mist of my friends, I am always the "nobody". They talk about the video clip, songs,dancing that I usually out of the topic. Is it means that I am out of the circle or left out?

Let me introduce the "kick out" guy, James Tan Yoke Shian. He was my best friends before. Since he started his puberty, that come earlier than me, he started to away from me. We used to be best friends in the world, now, everything change. He is a great singer, can play bass guitar and violin very very good. As he is 'upgrading', I am the one started to 'downgrade'. I can't join into his group. He always talk about "Kenny G", "Planet Shakers" etc that I usualy didn't get use to it.

However, he likes to complain about his family. He always say he lives under pressure, his life is full of resentment and lots of this stupid complain. Hey, he always say I have a great and wonderful parents. I am wondering is it his family is so worst until he is so admire my family?

Therefore, I always observing him and his family. What I guess is correct! His brothers and him are not like siblings, more like friends.What they do together are really like friends or perhaps "people you know". The way they talk make me sense that what he complaining all the times is true, but, is it really need to use the word "resentment" to describe it? Is it what we call left out?

Here is the thing that we should think about it. Are we disqualified in the mist of our friend? Will we be the left out one that haven't been categorised yet? But the way, what we really need find out is, are we in the right group?

My "Lovely" Group

Recently, i found out that CCOP youth are really make me angry riight now!! They really good at hurting people's feeling,there's nothing better than this . What happen to all of them? Are they now joined as a group that i left out? Why must they talk like a stupid dumb idiot 3 years old kids that never think before they talk?! Are they crazy or what?

The story just begun on the second night of Children Vacation Camp a.k.a. CVC. We were just rehearsal for the drama for tomorrow morning. When everyone is "crazy-ing", i just felt so sleepy(few days slept at midnight continuously). When the rehearsal is going to begin, I am totally freak out ! I was really not in a good mood i think,then i just said I am so sleepy. Hey man, i don't know that sleepy is kind of sin! When i just spoke out,that little self declare "genius" Tan Joo Hui said:" if sleepy, then after reherasal, no more programme,straight go to bed"! Oh my gosh,I sleepy is none of your business . For the whole night,she's having her "long face" showing to us,as a gentleman , I just trying to ignore it, but how many of us can ignore that?

Lately, here come the second "genius", Mark Yeoh . I think he is really a guy that should be taught in a cruel way, i guess so. That day, he come and chat with me in Facebook, asking " you know who am i", saying " he is Nescafe" etc. After these idiot conversation, he started to ask me i got play Farmville? I just answer no. From the other camp, i heard that Farmville is a game that can steal people's vegetable, so i ask him:" You wanna steal people's vegetable ?" . Then he answered me :" cannot steal one la!!" I just replied politely:" I thought can steal...Haha." What the hell he replied me:" you no play shut up......?!" What's that it means for? Had I done anything wrong that you this 11 freak kid need to answer in such a rude way? Where's your manner?

In Penang Island, we all most probably like to watch movie and shopping in two of these famous shopping complex, Queensbay Mall and Gurney Plaza. When it's holiday, you can see it's crowded with people especially teenagers. Last week, our dear Joshua Fellowship a.k.a JF's leader, Melody suggested to go to watch movie "together".Oh, what a good news isn't it. Ya, come to the same situation, Saturday suggest, Wednesday going, Tuesday only come out the little result. For me, I always hope to watch movies,not chinese movie. Haha, what a great news i had found, they are going to watch <> on afternoon. As i said, no chinese movie allowed! They seems like not sufficient, they are going to watch another movie called <<>> at night. Ya, great news!! Oh, I felt so happy! So, I decided to join them at night. After hair cut, my dad received a sms from Melody. She said no more ticket for <>.Oh, what a BIG surprise! In this case, I am not going to meet them. Truly, tomorrow want to watch movie, is it possible go and buy ticket on the evening?

Lastly before i forgot, the 1st day without maid in the house. I woke up at 10 something. It's normal that after wake up is breakfast time. When i get down, suddenly i realised that my parent didn't prepare any breakfast for me. OMG! I am super duper frustrated . I put on my status in Facebook, "no breakfast for me...haiz. What a "good" parent"! Let's guess what i got. All of them except my sister were comment about don't complain so much, maybe is time for you to prepare breakfast for your parents! Hey, this isn't my fault isn't it? Why should i get those kind of "reply"?! I really can't understand? Are they alien that I never saw?

What should I do for them? I think is time for me to think about it. Am I the left out one? Are they joined as a group to piss me off? Unbelievable! Just want to say a word to them, " You All Sux"!!